Self-Care is for Everyone
Self-Care is essential to ones physical and mental wellbeing. Many people believe self-care is "selfish" however, it is quite the opposite. Self-care allows us to become the best version of ourselves. If we are feeling exhausted and drained all the time, we are not going to be the best friend, caregiver, partner, or employee. There is only so much a person can give.
Selfish is not considering others. It is ignoring how we impact others and operating with a complete lack of consideration of others. Self-care is taking the steps to care for ourselves, in order to care for others. As humans, we have to help ourselves first, before we can help someone else.
Self-care is necessary for us to be able to thrive. It is about making time for the things that make us feel alive and forgetting everything that doesn't. It can be taking the time to fit in reading, drawing, writing, exercise, or rest. It is prioritizing healthy meals, taking a step from relationships, meeting with a counselor, hanging with a friend. It is what is needed to maintain us. Self-care emphasizes our worth. Taking the time to connect with ourselves enables us to feel validated, and emphasize we no longer need to rely on external sources.
Self-Care is a lot of things. Self-Care is different for everyone. But we are in control of it!
The Attachment Theory dates back to as early as the 1950's and was originated by John Bowlby. Attachment theory focuses on relationships or emotional bonds between people, including parent and child relationships and romantic relationships. There are four patters of attachment.
1. Avoidant Attachment
Avoidant attachment is one type of insecure attachment style. Individuals who have an avoidant attachment may have difficulty expressing feelings or emotions. Those may also feel uncomfortable when someone else seeks out forms of intimacy. Those with avoidant attachment tend to become emotionally or physically independent.
2. Secure Attachment
Secure attachment is the most common type of attachment and is the healthiest style. Self-contended, social, and warm, are characteristics that people with this type of attachment style may portray. Individuals with style may have more success with long-term relationships. Those with secure attachment are aware of their emotions and emotional needs, they are okay with expressing them and do not go to extremes.
3. Anxious Attachment
Anxious attachment is one insecure type of insecure attachment. People with anxious attachment often have low self-esteem, fear of rejection, clinginess, or need for constant reassurance. People often have a strong desire for intimacy but is accompanied with doubts and abandonment anxiety.
4. Disorganized Attachment
Disorganized attachment is a type of insecure attachment style. Individuals with this attachment style are very inconsistent in behaviors and have a hard time with intimacy. They WANT to love and to feel loved. But, they are too afraid to let anyone in. They do not reject intimacy; they are afraid of it. People with disorganized attachment have a fear of being hurt by those closets to them. People with disorganized attachment are waiting for the worst to happen and avoid proximity.
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